7. Pain and Growth
痛苦与成长

单词与词组   Words and phrases
profoundly                 //                 adv.        深深地
ordinary                 //                 a.    平凡的
frustration                 //         n.           挫败
accomplishment         //         n.            成就
anguish                        //                 n.           痛苦
crucial                        //                 a.         至关紧要的
inclination                 //         n.     倾向
inevitable                 //                 a.         必然的
disservice                //                 n.         伤害               

根据朗读标记，听录音跟读，然后背诵。
        Looking back︵ over my life, it seems to me that▼ I have learned the most▼ when︵ I felt the greatest pain. My mother's death, for︵ example, made me more profoundly aware︵ of the beauty in nature. My capacity for finding joy in the most ordinary events (watching︵ a flower︵ open,↗ leaves turning red,↗ a bird taking︵ a bath↘) seems to deepen each time I live through great sorrow. Death makes life more precious;↗ frustration makes success more fulfilling;↗ failure makes the next︵ accomplishment more meaningful.
        In︵ order to feel deeply▼ it︵ is necessary to feel︵ everything. It︵ is︵ impossible to choose. You can't really know▼ how great▼ is your sense︵ of joy at︵ a baby's birth▼ or your satisfaction︵ at succeeding︵ at︵ a hard job▼ unless you are︵ also deeply aware︵ of the anguish︵ of separation▼↗ and the pain︵ of failure.↘ It's through the capacity to feel▼ that we discover︵ ourselves︵ and others▼ and explore the potential for︵ a full,↗ significant life.
        This︵ is︵ an︵ especially crucial issue for parents. Our natural︵ inclination︵ is to try to protect children from pain. We have the mistaken notion that▼ if︵ a child︵ is happy▼ we are doing ︵a good job; if︵ a child︵ is sad▼ we are failing as parents. But giving children the message that▼ happy is good▼↗ and sad︵ is terrible▼↘ decreases their capacity to explore the full range︵ of human ︵experiences.
        Children need to understand that▼ suffering,↗ frustration↗ and failure↘ are not ︵only inevitable▼ but helpful. The parent who took︵ a simple puzzle︵ away from︵ a four-year︵-old child ▼has dreadful feeling▼ because "he gets too upset︵ and frustrated▼ when he can't get︵ it right︵ immediately,"--did the child︵ a great disservice. Children need to experience such feelings︵ as they grow up; it helps them to develop the patience,↗ persistence︵↗ and︵ ability↘ to cope▼ that they'll need▼ when︵ a scientific︵ experiment fails, or︵ a low grade︵ is received▼ after diligent study. There︵ is nothing so terrible︵ about failing↘ and feeling pain; what hurts▼ in the long run▼ is▼ not trying▼ because︵ of the fear︵ of pain.

背诵小贴士 Recitation tips
我们都害怕痛苦，事实上没有痛苦做为参照，我们又怎能体会欢欣的价值？
1. Looking back over my life, it seems to me that I have learned the most when I felt the greatest pain. Death-life; frustration-success; failure-accomplishment.
2. Children need to understand that suffering, frustration and failure are not only inevitable but helpful.

参考译文
痛苦与成长
        回首往事，我觉得最痛苦的经历似乎给了我最大启迪。比方说，母亲的去世让我更加深切地体会到大自然的美好。每经受一次大的痛苦，我在对日常事物中发现愉悦的能力（观赏花儿开放，叶儿变红，鸟儿沐浴）就增加一分。死亡使得生命格外珍贵；挫折使得成功更加完满；失败使得下一次成就更有意义。
        要想感受深切，就须感受一切，有所选择地感受是不可能的。你没有深切体会到分娩的阵痛，又哪能真正领悟到新生命诞生的巨大喜悦？你没有深切体会到失败的痛楚，又哪能真正领悟到成功完成一项艰巨工作之后的满足？我们在感受之中发现自己和他人，探索完满而有意义的生活的可能性。
        这尤其是父母面临的一个严峻问题。做家长的总是情不自禁地竭力避免让孩子受苦。我们错误地认为，只要孩子幸福，家长就算尽了职，而孩子不幸，家长就是失了职。但是，让孩子感知幸福即好、不幸即糟这一讯息，则削弱了他们全面发掘人生经验的能力。
        孩子们应该懂得，痛苦、挫折和失败非但不可避免，而且非常有益。父母拿走四岁孩子手中的智力玩具，唯恐“他一时做不好就会灰心丧气”，这无异于害了孩子。孩子们在成长过程中需要这样的情感经历，这种情感经历有助于培养孩子的耐心、毅力和能力，让他们将来在科学实验失败的时候，在经过努力学习仍取得低分的时候，都能够处之泰然。失败和痛苦并不可怕；归根结底，真正有害的是因为惧怕痛苦而拒绝尝试。